The other day I saw a story about a woman telling about how proud she was of her boys. They wanted to get a vasectomy as soon as possible. This is in light of the recent court decision that put abortion legality in the purview of the state.
So let's talk about vasectomy. The only reason for it is intercourse without pregnancy. One reason might be the health of the woman where a pregnancy would be unsafe due to some health condition. The other reason would be random sexual intercourse which is forbidden by scripture. The vasectomy would not stop the spread of DNA or disease, only pregnancy. A simple condom would prevent these. When sexual intercourse is successful, that is the ejaculation occurs in the woman's vagina, she receives the man's DNA, even without sperm. This is still sexual intercourse that the scripture reserves for marriage.
Those boys have been taught to avoid children for pleasure. A vasectomy is relatively inexpensive. To undo a vasectomy is very expensive elective surgery. Insurance will likely not pay. Undoing a vasectomy may not always be possible. Someday those boys may decide they want children and that may not be possible. Some women are saying they want their men to have a vasectomy, but I believe it is only a political statement. When a woman wants a man, she wants one who can fully be a man for her, even with the chance that she could get pregnant. In other words, when a woman finds out the man had a vasectomy, she may no longer find him appealing.
There is a better way. Our society frowns on this, but there is nothing sinful about it. The answer is masturbation. Churches have taught against masturbation due to a misunderstanding of Onan and Tamar in Genesis 38:9. Onan was not masturbating. Onan was breaking a promise. Also, Asceticism has taught that pleasure is somehow evil. Pleasure is a gift from God. God gave us pleasure as motivation to fulfill one of His commands.
Genesis 1:28 "And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth."
Having children is a good thing, but there are a lot of years that a boy must live before children are a possibility. Even after that the need for sexual relief is strong. Our society today seems to want to encourage sinful intercourse while discouraging boys and men getting sexual relief. We live in a matriarchal society.
So back to masturbation. The mother above should set her boys down and have a discussion about women, sex and children. Then she should teach them about masturbation. She should teach them how it is a gift from God and that they should do it as often as they like, which is usually as often as they need it.
This will seem wrong in our society, but in some societies, rarely in ours, the mother can assist her sons in masturbation. This keeps a mother-son bond strong, but it also keeps boys from pursuing a girl only for sexual reward. A boy who has masturbated or been masturbated before meeting a girl has a much clearer mind. A clear mind will find it much easier to find a girl who will be a good wife and mother. Many have been lured away for sexual favor to later find out that the girl or woman was not a good life long choice.
A wife must realize that she can not be available for intercourse when it is needed by the husband. A wife who has been properly trained will then also continue to help her husband by masturbating him or encouraging him to do so as desired. A happy man also can help there be a happy home.